Smile like a torn sail,
bravado can be a
current before ever
just brave,
children hesitate or
tremble, my
own hands, too.
A father’s photograph
on the shelf,
my mother’s plane
she made her symbol, too
though he was first the pilot-
I can hold
without a sound.
I listen to music
when I’m afraid,
place headphones over
what I held onto
of things known before
I became this version
of me, to calm
the old panic
that doesn’t come
too often anymore.
It’s not that I don’t
know how bad it could be,
only that the fear
doesn’t matter, only
joy at the end,
love and
what remains of
your self that fear
would try to
kill.
The fragile cord
hand over hand
formed
that holds me to grief
I say, ‘quiet’
repeatedly
as it tries to
pull
same way the ocean
waves lull into peace
or acceptance, I
tap out
sometimes,
exhausted.
And have so little tolerance
for any pretense,
though I care
a person hurts
maybe because pretense
and lies take energy.
Same old gravity
I’ve always been,
even when John left
because the world was too
hard for him, or my friend
dragged me down the stairs
that night after slipping
something in my drink,
and much later
pounding my feet against
a bathroom door to
keep it closed,
same old gravity
of knowing
what shouldn’t be known,
and I am lighter
than seems right
because of it.
I remember how my mom
was beautiful, but I knew
her haunted words-
she gave me a script
I’ve spent half a lifetime
rewriting.
So let the night be night
slow down and watch
the hummingbirds’
quick hover
their lovely,
brief life,
the dog’s paw casually
upon my knee as
she sleeps means
I am her safety, now,
how I needed for so long;
I want to not be the one
left behind, but I really
think it’s just the way
of life,
and when I ran before,
I became abstract/
temporarily
blurred around the
edges until
I could stop to build
what was needed of myself,
I think it was necessary,
because where I started
wanted to stay an
endless night
and I had so little
to stand on.
Hand that touches petals that
could be violent, hand
that holds instead-
my love will never involve
death of self for me
to stay,
never.
Somehow,
I hold the truths that
seemed more complicated
than they are
where I had to keep
some truths separate
from others like,
a person can have goodness
and be terrible, and
I may love them
though they’re too hurt
to not hurt others:
if looking hard enough
even the people we call evil
or just say, have done
terrible things
have good qualities,
but it doesn’t mean
they are redeemable,
it doesn’t mean you
should not protect
your self as if
you were told
your life meant less
than their own
from too young an age
to know the truth
without pain,
we are encouraged to forgive
before we understand what it means
from people who don't know forgiveness
and we skip over the fact
that love of self comes first,
acknowledging pain comes first.
After mom is gone, I can love
the best parts of her
and the best of
all she gave me
and hold her truth
for her, hold her leaving
before she left even
and unanswerable
questions/
her need to run far
and run often
to persist/ I
hold her
still.
I think I’m a little proud
of my softness after
it all, of my anger
even
that bakes beneath
and makes me
quietly relentless
in things
and glad to have been
the daughter of a
philosopher of sorts
and lucky,
I had him, too
along with the quickness
she gave me, and her
heart like a butterfly,
never needing
any one thing
so I could become all the ways
needed to survive, or at least
to know what I needed to do
before I could know them
reading all the words
that came before me
like what the Stoics strived for
and the very old living in
the cave of a mountain
but my own way
and most definitely not,
stoically.
I could never just trust
what someone said
and asked endless
questions, which
I guess is what happens
when the reality you grow in
is unreliable, and you learn
to trust out of loyalty alone
is dangerous.
The old thoughts
like jagged rocks
tumbling year
over year
smooth,
as much as a tumbling
stone can become
until ready to sit
at the water’s edge to
let the waves do
the rest
is more than enough-
to see then a torn sail
like the possibility it is,
incredibly beautiful
and questions ever simpler
than they could be before,
like is a boat on the ocean
ever truly lost.
Tag: Philosophy
seeing the edge of a shape
A calm I first knew
in the warm sting
of Miami beaches
in the swell of
a wave was
enough to hold
my attention,
thankfully,
a relentless
press.
Could I be free
from chains I was
born in like my
mother and hers
before
to allow them
to break away
even as they
bruise
and clank.
Because this place
can make a person
unable
to feel or see
what is right
in front of them
when the image
blurred
by sad memory
or old pain
seems as real
as it gets-
so loud,
demanding
we remember
everything
to survive
and we
try to carry with
love, without
being angry
and with all
the fragility
still, so
we will not become
the darkness,
we might become
the very thing
that keeps balance.
Some say
this world is soft to
lessen the blow,
and I feel the
partiality of it
limiting-
I cannot
in hand hold
this beautiful place
the complicated petals
layer upon layer
like a chrysanthemum
without holding
the dark, as it is
between each
shining edge
a defined line
showing
this petal and that petal.
And instead of running
from everything
known
like I did at first
like happiness
was a thing
ran into, suddenly
behind a door probably
someone else opened
waiting to be found,
one day, I began to see
in places that
cannot be touched
by perspective
too much like
on a snowy, narrow
pass in the Cascades
where my heart
could still
its panic:
in that moment
a rush of wind
is beautiful
because I live-
I knew to go
looking after
the waves.
And the vast words
held too long
unsure of how
to say them
having not defined
what was indefinable
could split ice
and rock
beneath the places
I kept running
and I would simply
slide
for awhile.
It took some years
to become still enough
that my own shaking
could not unground
my thoughts/
and longer
for the hold
to take place
that is space kept
for knowing things
as they are
as much
as is possible
in any moment
without needing it
and with all
the uncertainty
where I could look
at what had happened,
these chaotic moments
and grief
that could crush
who I believed
myself to be,
to look back instead
with love for the sake
of love and gratitude
that I was myself
all along, especially
in the rainforest
walking, or with hands
digging into the ground
another living thing
having not much choice
in things, like lavender
with its sweetness
for no reason
to give it water
when it would not rain,
part of the learning.
Can you see
where the heart
will survive
by it’s aching,
running to be free
knowing what is
and isn’t worth
staying for,
is as basic as
need of air
if in a place
a person feels
their own thoughts
cannot be trusted
when it is mostly
the thoughts of others
like a sidewalk, broken
but you try to run
and trip.
But finally
to hold still
in the calm of
knowing the dark
as it is, dependent
upon that which grows
and thrives/ maybe
a glimpse
on a mountain pass
quiet enough defines
the edge
of your self
when it is difficult to see,
you have held it.
in caves
Sunflowers grow | beneath cliffs, a din heard in the mouth small sound of roots deep, stems bracing waves that crash high like a hand held to the face with eyes closed pauses all of it here, some will arrive by wandering but it is dark and so much unknown to wander freely or consider to stay. We see only their crowns as they breach the unseen, their beginning is close, just a step into a place the sun holds without ever saying, hello/ we could know them: their bright faces petals a happy yellow and lovely, framed in what some would say is joy but they are shaking their heads slowly no, yet again with each rising and setting, they follow from the place they would leave if only these deep roots inch by inch would pull free - Did you know stems grow in the night to the west so the head can sway to the east at sunrise. The stem guides like stars in the night, desert sky are persistent or pollen on a honeybee is small easy to miss but irrefutable/ they, are guided far round cold corners wide, clementine eye, happy and content/ how the heart keeps the mind stays the heart to keep on and the sound in this hidden place, brushing upon damp walls: the wind at the end of its journey over wave and accidentally in this hollow is song like woman who whispers, do not let me break, please but same way, rounds corners and rejoins the sky- wandering you may slide cliffside into deep ocean, not seeing it is a cliff where waves will slam the mark of this place, and will swim near a place dry but dark and cold when no one is around to see you. Wild sunflower grow, long stemmed and leave, I would say this old cave- eventually. Eye following the sun even as it sets with you, no madness or sad keeping of memory but growing round cold walls into the quiet beauty one day, of knowing nothing of the previously known.
many worlds
All the reasons the heart couldn’t form,
a humble stem/kitsch in your mother’s attic:
there’s a hundred hours left
still,and the sun won’t really set
just sway into someone
a world away,
looks like you, looks like I,
holds a star like space holds/
limitless.
Even how love, was the baby frog I kept
in my pencil case to bring
along to school,
‘little buddy,’ because the softness
of empathy is there before words
get in the way
but only realized when we talk about it.
It’s likely not many notice
the beauty of someone young
holding their space fully/
or how outside of god
we hold the words of many gods
we have loved in our memory:
I still will sing
at the end of the world
walk into storms the same way
a ghost can only be ghostly.
Eat the cake! I really think it is fine
and to love peculiar things
like tiny frogs and funny-nosed sloths:
because love informs when chaos
gentle at the gate is hot
and all-too-ready.
us, mirror
The way of a mind like a seed
on the wind floats up
instead of with the wind
somehow, or people born
wedged in sidewalk cracks
deep away from the sun
know where happiness
resides tumbling
upon its arrival:
in this I feel almost
a lucky misfit.
Even a self divided is
scattered like pages
lost within the house
with no binding.
I see windows in every room
that inform nothing except
where I have arrived from,
and, I, in every room
stitch a binding, day-
in and out, am
surrounded by a puzzle
of words on paper.
But aren’t us the
song? Aren’t us the
dream and
attuned to truth:
the paradox of remaining
genuine when a melody
unfolding.
~how to grace
I have lived surrendered in hope
tied loose like the truth
in my mouth is loose
or a startled face is composed
loosely as a cloud sifts
the light of the day/
it was Mary’s sorrow upon
the backs of ladybugs; that
is a story people told
to explain the mar
of black. to become
echoes
painting poppies on dark
space of nowhere and
nobody, just
the brightest poppy with black
stamen sunk as beautiful
things are sunk in feeling
composed of all colors. How
delight is only found in
in the middle of a
crashing wave-
to live between the surety
and the unknown unfolding
Memory Still
I need photographs of you to remember
the way you smiled at me
moments that cannot be re-
drawn with crayons
or pounded into the present
with frustrated shrieks.
I have a string.
It is a thread of grey
long and trailing behind over
the horizon; I am walking
on a highway back
somewhere
where has that place gone?
If I follow the thread back,
will I find you there?
Or, are memories scaled in shades
of black and white
fluttering like a bird’s heart?
I don’t really need the photographs
to remember; it is that I
wish to flesh out memory until
you are standing before me
a reflection of who I am
and so spectacularly,
who you are
and tip-toe up to kiss you
gently, breathing life
into your eyes that
was gone
to see you smile.